Personally, I've never been into the lable thing. I don't use any of the previously used labels to describe myself nor do I use them when looking for a boyfriend, date, etc. Even on my Adam4Adam and BGC profiles, I don't have anything listed under my "position". Also, while online looking at various profiles or pages, I don't use a guy's listed "position" to detemine whether or not I'm going to send him a message. In my rational; if I think he's hot, I like the content in his profile, and if his dimensions line-up, I send a message.
Lately, I've been coming across guys who are hung-up on labels. Heartbreaker was(is) hungup on being a "Top". So much so, that he lets it affect his relationship and dating choices. One of his friends even told me that Heartbreaker needs to be with a guy who's a "Strict Bottom". What the fuck is a "Strict" bottom??
And then there's this new shorty I've been talking to. We met online, one Sunday night, while I was in the middle of getting ready to go out. Since he happend to live in my neighborhood, I decided to take a small detour by his place on my way to original my destination. I got to his apartment, and was kind of surprized by how much of a cutie he was. Since he didn't have a face pic online, but, a nice body pic, I expected a "butta-face". But, hey, I was going in that direction for the train anyway, so, why not make a small pit stop?
Anyway, we met, hangout in his place, talked for about thirty minutes, and said our goodbye's. In our time together, nothing remotely sexual happened between us. Which was nice since we were just trying to get to know each other. Besides, he's cute, he's nice, he's smart, but, he's not really my "type" body wise.
A few minutes later, after I left, we ended up having an exchange, which he initiated, via text, as follows;
Dude: "Hey. Can I ask you somethin'?"
Roc: "Yeah, what is it?"
Dude: "Are you a top or a bottom?"
Roc: "LOL! Niether...you?"
Dude: "Top...u must be verz then."
Roc: "yea, I guess. Lol."
Next afternoon, while I'm on the bus, he texts me with some type of fuckery.
Dude: "If you had to choose, to get fucked or do the fucking, for the rest of your life, which would you choose?"
Roc: "LOL! What kinda question is that?"
Dude: "Just answer it."
Roc: "Lmao! Niether...you?"
Dude: "I'm a top, so its obvious what I choose. Just pick one."
Roc: "Why do I have to choose one?"
Dude: "I'll give u some time to think about it..."
Roc: "I don't need time to think. Lol!...why is it such a big deal?"
Sidebar: I didn't even really like this guy "all like that". He's cute, but, not really my type. So, I don't even know why I continued with this text fuckery for as long as I did. I think it was a combination of personal boredom mixed with the fact that I like a little comfrontation from time-to-time.
Dude: "Bcuz I need to know what's goin' on if we get into a relationship..."
Roc: "I guess."
Long story, short, we had a little text argument about how I can't date nor be involved with guys who are hungup on labels. He defended himself. We went back and forth on the issue. And, then we basically agreed to disagree.
Anyway, I hate running into guys who are hungup on labels. Not only for themselves, but, for other gay males. I've noticed that our Lesbian counterparts don't seem to have the problem in their community. And, they seem to have great fufilling relationships, without letting labels control their lives.
When are Gay men going to stop being such Label Whores?